The Strength in Grief, Emotional Resilience, and Leadership That Lasts
Welcome back to Build a Better You! Each week, I share insights from my coaching journey to help you lead with clarity, resilience, and confidence. This week, I’m reflecting on something deeply personal—grief and loss. Today is my mother’s birthday. She passed away at 39, and even now, 39 years later, the weight of her absence still affects me profoundly. If you’ve ever experienced loss, you know that grief doesn’t just disappear—it evolves, and we learn to carry it. This Week’s Focus: Grief Never Fully Leaves Us: Why It’s OK That You’re Not OK Losing my mother at such a young age changed me forever. Every year, on her birthday, the pain resurfaces. I find myself wondering who she would be today, what conversations we would have, and how life might have been different if she were still here. Grief doesn’t follow a straight path, and despite the years, it still catches me off guard. Megan Devine’s book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, highlights a truth we often resist—grief isn’t something to “get over.” It’s something we learn to live with. The world tells us to move on, but the reality is, the people we lose remain part of us forever. How to Cope with Long-Term Grief: Takeaway: Grief is a lifelong journey. Instead of trying to move past it, find ways to carry it with grace and self-compassion. Mastering Emotional Regulation: Tools to Navigate Life’s Challenges Emotions, especially difficult ones, can feel overwhelming. Emotional regulation is the ability to manage our feelings in a healthy and constructive way. Without it, we may suppress emotions until they explode, or let them control our actions. According to Simply Psychology, emotional regulation is a skill that can be strengthened over time. Ways to Improve Emotional Regulation: Takeaway: Learning to regulate emotions doesn’t mean ignoring them—it means acknowledging, processing, and responding to them in a way that aligns with your values and goals. Conscious Leadership: The Mindset That Inspires and Creates Impact Leadership isn’t just about hitting targets—it’s about fostering an environment where people feel valued, motivated, and aligned with a shared vision. Leaders like Satya Nadella and John Mackey embody conscious leadership, where success isn’t just measured in revenue, but in impact. Key Traits of Conscious Leaders: Takeaway: Leadership is about more than short-term wins. The most effective leaders cultivate self-awareness, purpose, and emotional intelligence to create lasting success. Coaching and Leadership: How Mentorship Shapes Success A great leader is also a great coach. Leaders who invest in coaching—whether for themselves or their teams—see greater engagement, improved performance, and higher emotional intelligence in their organizations. In my book, The Executive Coach: Strategies for Success in Leadership (available here), I dive into proven strategies for elevating leadership through coaching. How Coaching Strengthens Leadership: Takeaway: Coaching isn’t just for executives—it’s a tool for anyone who wants to level up their leadership skills and personal growth. Reflection Corner: Questions for the Week Final Thoughts: Grief, resilience, and leadership are deeply connected. The ability to acknowledge our emotions, process them, and use them to grow is what makes us stronger—not just as individuals, but as leaders. Let’s continue building a better version of ourselves, together. Wishing you a week of self-compassion, clarity, and growth. Warm regards,Terence H. Clarke
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